“He could be kind of scary and out of control onstage, but then after the show he’d be the most shy, introverted person you’ve ever met.”  (Dave Grohl – Nirvana drummer)

“…at a tender age, he would frequently cut himself out from the world by hiding away in a bedroom cupboard.”  (www.able2uk.com)

“…in his early years, he sat in his room for 90 per cent of the time – the sensitive, arty kid in a world of alpha-male jocks.”  (Writer Amy Raphael – ‘My Night with Kurt Cobain.’)


“By the age of nine, I pretty much gave up any idea of ever even surviving the age of 21 because I felt so alienated.”  

“When I was a kid I thought everything was so great. I was so excited to grow up. But in sixth grade I realized, ‘Wow, my whole life really sucks. Everyone I know is an asshole.'”

“I hated my best friends with a passion, because they were idiots.”

“I really haven’t had that exciting a life… I’d rather tell a story about somebody else.”

“Throughout my life, I’ve always been really close with girls and made friends with girls. And I’ve always been a really sickly, feminine person anyhow, so I thought I was gay for a while because I didn’t find any of the girls in my high school attractive at all.”

“I definitely feel closer to the feminine side of the human being than I do the male – or the American idea of what a male is supposed to be. Just watch a beer commercial and you’ll see what I mean.”

“I was tired of pretending that I was someone else just to get along with people, just for the sake of having friendships.”

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“I knew I was different. I thought I might be gay or something, because I couldn’t identify with any of the guys at all. None of them liked art or music. They just wanted to fight and get laid. It was many years ago, but it gave me this real hatred for the average american macho male.”

“I never wanted to sing. I just wanted to play rhythm guitar – hide in the back and just play. But during those high school years when I was just playing guitar in my bedroom, I at least had the intuition that I had to write my own songs.”

“I usually get intimidated by people who pressure their opinions on me. If I go into a truck stop, I’m gonna get laughed at, or get called “queer,” “hippie,” or instantly stereotyped. Me, I’m just too sensitive about that kind of stuff to shake it off. It bothers me too much.”

“I’m not gay, although I wish I were, just to piss off homophobes.”

“I was run out of town… just like the Frankenstein monster.”

“Cobain began dating Tobi Vail, an influential punk…After meeting Vail, Cobain vomited, as he was so completely overwhelmed with anxiety caused by his infatuation with her. This event would inspire the lyric ‘love you so much it makes me sick.’  in the song ‘Aneurysm’… Cobain and Vail spent most of their time discussing political and philosophical issues.” (wikipedia.org)

“…punks…at least appreciate the arts… not the typical thrash scene metalhead kid who has no clue what we’re trying to get at.”

We’re definitely opinionated.  But we’re too illiterate to back up what we have to say… So, if we were to get into an argument with someone about any topic, we would lose.”

“We’re not trying to climb our way to the top and be popular… we just want people to like our music.”

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“Cobain was…gentle, self-effacing… In the summer of 1991…’Smells Like Teen Spirit’ impacted on a global level… the band’s subsequent tour drew huge crowds and… overwhelmed Cobain. The pressure of performing to larger audiences took its toll and the attention threw Cobain into a tailspin of depression and drug abuse…”  (guitar.com)

“He was a shy person… when he got on stage and I went to take pictures of him playing, it all gelled. Otherwise, we were just introverted, nerdy kids… he was the sweetest guy, really nice. There were no rock star shenanigans about any of them… But I think it was too much, too soon for him…just being overwhelmed. It was, ‘I just want to play my music and have people hear it. But all of the rest of this stuff…’ He mentioned he just wanted to get away from it all sometimes… He was talking about how he wanted to buy a house in Scotland…” (Photographer Charles Peterson)

“He was a shy guy, funny and shy, but he had a certain confidence about himself, but a shyness with people… he didn’t enjoy the pop stardom…” (Photographer – Ian Tilton)

He was a super deep thinker. He was generally a shy and reclusive personality… He was not a very social person, so having a whole day to spend with him and talk about music was a beautiful experience.” (Bruce Pravitt)

“He had this kind of depressive mask about him, but I think it’s just because he was shy.” (Photographer – Charles Peterson)

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“The thrill and embarrassment of becoming international pop stars was too much…”

“I just can’t believe anyone would start a band just to make the scene and be cool and have chicks. I just can’t believe it.”

“Jocks have completely taken over music…”

“We actually had some jocks at a few of our recent shows… That’s scary.”

“If I went to jail, at least I wouldn’t have to sign autographs.”

“I’d like to… just retire to Mexico or Yugoslavia with a few hundred dollars, grow potatoes, and learn the history of rock through back issues of Creem magazine.”